Little cottage

My boyfriend and me are currently building our first little house, okay he is building it. It’s going to be a very tiny little cottage, although it’s not a cottage, I have given the house the name “cottage” which I’m still working on, but building your first house also means a lot of difficult decisions image what kind of style I’m a going for? Chabby chic? Country style? Modern? I have no idea what we are going to opt for when our house is ready for decoration but I would love to have a personal house, with a lot of books, pictures, memories and strange details…
We will just have o wait an see how it end ups.
Here are some inspiration I have for our little cottage
Love charlie xx

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How to handle a bully

I’m not perfect, I’ve said and done stupid things. Hell I still say and do stupid things, but from experience I know how it feels like being bullied, and I didn’t deal with it very good, and I often think how I would have handled it if I could turn the clock back.

bullying

  • Punch them in the face…. I’m Kidding. So don’t do that!

Violence is never the answer. Fight with your mind not with your fists.

  • What ever they say, just politely agree.

“You are an ugly idiot”

“Yes I’m, thank you for noticing”

“You have no friends”

“Yes, it’s a shame isn’t it.”

It’s a more fun way to deal what already is a crappy situation. By agreeing you are minimizing what the bully can pick on, they are looking for your hidden deepest darkest insecurities – those you would never would tell anyone.

By openly admitting to everything that a bully wants to pin on you it just becomes boring.

  • DO NOT RETALIATE! It doesn’t matter what they say or do to you, how awful or horrible it gets. That moment that you start hurling abuse back you sink to their level. If you maintain a moral high ground you are in touchable up there.
  • STAY CALM. Nothing spells disaster like wetting yourself in front of a bully. You must just keep in mind that this bully lives a much sadder life than yours. Who goes around bullying other people and treating other people like crap for fun? Someone who is damaged on the inside.

Bullies try to draw attention to your insecurities to take attention from their own. It’s the equivalent of going “look there is an elephant over there! Don’t look at me. Look at the elephant”.

I always found it easier to just ignore the bully and just hope that they would stop because it became boring.

  • TELL SOMEONE. I know this sound really cliché, and a lot of the time teachers and parents just say “just ignore them” and even if no immediate action is taken, at least you have made someone aware of the situation. So if something was to crop up again, they are ought to remember the last time you said something and each time you are more likely to get something done about the situation. The worst thing you could possibly do is to bottle it up and suffer in silence, nobody wants you to do that. Your friends and family care about you and want to make sure that you are having a good time at school. Nobody wants that you have that one person making your life a misery. I have been there and I know how much that SUCKS!

Bullying doesn’t stop after school, I learnt that the hard way, unfortunately. It’s a sucky situation. Its all part of that fraise “life isn’t fair”, but the older you become it becomes easier to.

  1. Ignore it, because the smaller things don’t get to you as much as when you are younger and in school.
  2. It’s easier to tell someone, just to get over with it sooner because you just don’t want to go through that again, when you already have been through it at school.

As long as we all have some idea how to deal with it responsibly and respectfully, with respectfully I mean not only to other people but to ourselves as well. There are people who deal with it by self-harming, or starving themselves or in some extreme cases by suicide, and it absolutely break my heart, as it shouldn’t still be happening. It makes me so sad and angry, we should be looking out for each other and try to deal with bullying with respectfully and responsibly we will find a way a way to eventually overcome it.

Love                                                                                                                                                  Charlie xx

the fault in our stars book review

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The fault in our stars is award winning author john green’s most ambitious and heartbreaking work yet, brilliantly exploring the funny, thrilling and tragic business of being alive and in love.

Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist called Augustus waters suddenly appears at cancer kid support group, Hazel’s story is completely rewritten.

I found this book by accident, in a small independent bookstore, or truth be told, I accidentally knocked it down from a shelf – my clumsiness led to something good for once.

I wasn’t a stranger to The fault in our stars before I knocked it down, I had just assumed that it was a children’s book and it couldn’t compare itself to literary masterpieces, which is also true language wise.

The fault in our stars is a very easy to read, yet the story is intriguing and gripping. A book that is impossible to put down. We all know what happens when I find a book I can’t put down, I don’t put it down until its finished with that said I finished it in one night.

The storyline is amazing and Hazel and Augustus are two witty, intelligent and remarkable characters, they are one of those characters that you actually want to be. The couple doesn’t just have to deal with falling in love for the first time,they have to confront cancer, friendship, anger, sorrow and death.

This book is also best read with a package of tissues near by. I always read on public transports and I would not recommend to read this one on your train journeys as you might shred a tear or two, or like me, blubbering my way through this book.

Love

Charlie 

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Christmas 2014

Christmas is long gone and I can’t wait until next christmas arrives. I love christmas. its such a magical period. I spent christmas at home with my family and it was a very good one, a bit too much food but then who complains , I love christmas food. So I thought I would share some photos.

christmas 2014
my little Newfie puppy is playing with his christmas stocking
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christmas decorations
boxing day walk
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my newfie puppy and me
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boxingday walk
boxing day walk
boxing day walk
christmas food!
christmas food!
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boxingday walk
chummy chatter
chummy chatter

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This weather

Something that bothers me is how whenever you have exams the weather is absolutely amazing and you just want to head upstate and go skiing.. And when you actually can go skiing the weather sucks and you get stuck in blizzards… Oh well
Love
Charlie ❤
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